As you get deeper into your Qigong practice you will find that your relationships will really change. I was reminded of this a couple of days ago when I was walking my dog in the park. There was a man and woman having a heated discussion on the bridge where my dog goes wading. It was actually more like a Mom yelling at her kid than two adults.
Over the last couple of years, I have lost the filter between my mind and my mouth and I say whatever I am thinking. So, I said to the woman, ‘It would be great if you could take that discussion to a more private place.’ Well then, the triade turned to me. ‘I’m trying to save my marriage here and we have kids and we came here to talk’. I said ‘I’ve been where you are and if your husband doesn’t want to change, there is nothing you can do to change him. It happened to me and I got divorced and it was great for everybody!’
At this point, she stopped & looked at me and said ‘please forgive me for bothering you’. This was said in a sarcastic tone so I just walked away. Of course, Nikki (my dog) wanted to get out of there too!
I was wondering why this encounter was still with me today. I realized that when I started practicing Qigong, Master Nan Lu, stated that many marriages will break up when only one of the couple is practicing Qigong. He also said that you may find a whole new set of friends. Well, that was so true for me!
Many years ago, when I started my daily Qigong practice, I felt such a release of my physical and emotional garbage and started getting in touch with who I really was. As I did this, <em>I realized that I had married my mother!!</em> Somebody who was just not capable of showing love to someone else. We had other problems related to my husband not taking responsibility for anything with the house and kids, but the defining moment was when I realized I was repeating an earlier pattern in my life.
Qigong helped me to realize that I was capable of giving and receiving love. I had been so traumatized by my childhood that I never before believed I could love myself. Qigong broke open those walls in my heart to say that I deserved to be with a loving person. So, after much discussion and counseling we got divorced. And you know what? It really worked out well for everyone!
Don’t get me wrong, I still have much work to do in opening my heart and I had some other relationships that showed me other aspects of myself. But, Qigong has shown me that life is a continual spiral of realizing things about yourself and releasing them to the universe. You may think you have released everything about a particular issue and then it comes charging back again so that you can release even more.
So, serious Qigong practitioners beware…you may end up having a new spouse and new friends! But you will be much happier with yourself and them.